What is an Erogenous Zone?
The inner wrist is highly sensitive, small erogenous zone and responds well to light touch. Think, the grazing of your fingertips or tongue or lips softly across this area. As it is not a common one, this can build more excitement.
Palms of hands and fingertips
The fingertips are the part of the body most sensitive to touch, and your palms aren’t far behind. Run your finger intimately and consciously around in circles on their palm and feel as the anticipation heightens. Sucking your partner's fingers is also considered highly erotic. Think, My Best Friend's Wedding, and the scene where he sucks the ring off her finger.
With so many nerve endings the scalp can send tingles down the spine with even the slightest brush or touch. Sensitive spots are often just above the ears, and above the neck. Tugging on hair can also up the stimulation and excitment.
With sensitive skin on the outside and hundreds of sensory receptors on the inside, the ears top the list of erogenous zones for many people. With sensory receptors that you can engage with by whispering or lightly blowing into their ear, or use touch to gently run your finger around, lightly kiss, lick or nibble your partners earlobes for heighten anticipation.
Small of the back • Sacrum
A small brush of the fingertips, or flutter of a vibrator makes this zone exciting. It may do with the fact that the nerves in this portion of the spine are connected to the pelvis which makes this area so sensitive and evokes pleasure throughout the body.
Navel and lower stomach
Being dangerously close to the genitals makes this area especially arousing and makes the mind leap in anticipation. Use your fingertips, lips, tongue or vibrator and trace circles down. The inner-dip of the hip bones are especially sensitive so ensure you use this to your advantage.
The inner arm, just above the armpit is a super sensitive zone and will raise the blood quickly. If you are pinning their hands above their head on the bed, be sure to bring your hands down slowly and linger over this area as you make your way down.
Behind the knee
This is another often neglected area that’s incredibly sensitive to any kind of touch. It’s even ticklish for some. Give the area some special attention during a massage, or use your mouth and tongue there before working your way up or down the leg.
Areola and nipples
Nipple stimulation lights up the same area in the brain as the genitals. Be mindful that at different times of the month that female nipples can change in sensitivity, so always start with a light touch. Trace around the areola before moving onto the nipple. Use your lips, tongue, a feather, or a small vibrator. Blowing, sucking, licking and flicking can add in some extra excitement to the nipple. Any temperature play with a massage candle or hot and cold toy or glass wand will take your play even further.
Mouth and lips
Your lips are a tapestry of parasympathetic nerve fibres, brushing them with your fingers will trigger a soft response in your body of relaxation, allowing your mind to settle and move you away from your day-to-day mountain of jobs and stresses. Without first allowing your body to relax you may not feel 'in the mood' for any sexual engagement. Take the time to stimulate this area by touch and kissing and allow the body to melt.
When it comes to the neck, even the slightest touch can make your entire body tingle. Play this zone with flutter touches or fingernails. Kiss softly down the sides of the neck or use your tongue and see how your partner responds.
The inner thighs are so sensitive and so close to the genitals that the longer you take your time here the higher the anticipation will build. Use your fingers, lips vibrator or temperature play toy to run from behind the knee all the way up and then back down. A soft bite or two can take your partner by surprise or use a pinwheel or feather tickler for more sensation play.
Bottom of feet and toes
Pressure points in the bottom of the feet can increase blood flow and enhance feelings of arousal when manipulated just right. Experiment with different pressures when massaging the feet, starting light and working your way deeper until you find what works. Licking, kissing and sucking of the toes are other common play elements to explore.
The mons pubis, the fleshy mound just above the clitoris, is rich in nerve endings that are connected to the genitals. Massaging the area in an up and down motion can indirectly stimulate the labia and clitoris. Kissing the area, using a vibrator or your tongue are all favourite ways to stimulate this area.
This small pleasure bud contains over 8,000 nerve endings and is covered by a hood. This zone is incredible sensitive so always check in with your partner to see what is feeling good. Using lube to softly stimulate this area with your fingers, tongue or a vibrator is a great place to start. Experiment with direction and tempo to find what feels best.
The lower part of the vaginal opening is full of erotically charged nerve endings and home to the anterior fornix (A-spot). Use fingers, a dildo, or penis to penetrate the vagina, and focus pressure on the front wall while sliding in and out.
The G-spot is an erogenous zone capable of causing what’s known as female ejaculation, or 'squirting'. A glass wand or a curved G-spot vibrator are great tools if you'd like to explore this zone further with a partner or by yourself. With a good amount of lube, turn your vibrator or wand upward toward the navel and move it in a “come hither” motion. Find what feels good and keep at it, allowing the sensation to build. To read more about how to use your wand and explore further, click here.
A person needs to be fully aroused to enjoy cervical stimulation, so foreplay is a must. Any deep-penetration sex position can do it. Doggy style is a good one that can be performed using a strap-on or regular dildo, too. When you find a depth and motion that feels good, keep going. Cervical orgasms are often described as a full body orgasm, to read more about this click here.
The glans penis is what’s known as the head. Thanks to 4,000 nerve endings, it’s the most sensitive part of the penis. Tease it by rubbing your wet lips gently over the head before using the tip of your tongue around the rim. A well-lubed hand or vibrating sleeve can also be a lot of fun.
This is the elastic piece of skin on the underside of the penis, where the shaft meets the head. It’s highly sensitive and the primary trigger of orgasms in people with penises. Use your hands or mouth to stimulate this zone. Using a lubed hand up and down the shaft, let your thumb graze the F-spot, or during a blow job, make sure your tongue pays extra attention to this hot spot.
The foreskin is filled with nerve endings that actually enhance pleasure for those with uncircumcised penises. This thin layer of skin provides the opportunity to mix it up for different sensations during a hand job or blow job. You can let it glide over the penis and glands with each stroke or gently retract it to focus on the naked F-spot and head. Be gentle and use lube.
Scrotum and testicles
The testicles are filled with super-sensitive nerves that can be gently massaged during a blow job, hand job, or while masturbating. Up the pleasure by running your finger gently up and down the scrotal raphe, which is the seam that runs down the centre of the scrotum.
This sensitive patch of skin lies between the scrotum and anus. You can reach this from pretty much any position on yourself or someone else. Rub along this spot by using your fingers or your knuckle to apply pressure while sliding it back and forth. Do it as ejaculation nears for a mind-blowing climax. You can also explore with vibrating pleasure rings that when positioned over this area can enhance stimulation.
This walnut-sized gland sits at the root of the penis and can lead to powerful orgasms. You can only reach the P-spot anally, so using either a well-lubed finger or prostate vibrator work best. Always remember that the anus is a vacuum, so always ensure your toys have a flared end.
Gently insert your finger or vibrator a couple of inches into the rectum, applying pressure to the front wall. When you find the right move, keep at it. Stroke or suck the penis at the same time for maximum pleasure.